Her Break Up Reasons: Is
She Simply Testing You?
by George Karanastasis, M.D.
are many reasons a girl breaks up with a guy. And in the
majority of cases her intentions are quite clear: she
just wants “out” because this whole ordeal is not living
up to her expectations. However, no matter how cut and
dry a woman’s motives may appear there is one specific
reason to be singled out before calling it quits: is she
putting you through “the test”? And if she is… how
can you make sure that you pass?
first we need to define what exactly is this “test” that
I’m referring to. In the simplest of descriptions it’s a
woman’s way of telling a guy that it’s either time for
him to step things up or time for him to get lost… an
indirect “all or nothing” proposition if you will. What
does this mean? To be blunt: she wants a solid
how can you be sure that her break up reasons are simply
part of a test? Actually, it’s not that difficult. All
you need to do is take 3 things into consideration:
- The length of the relationship
- Her age
- The marital status of her closest friends and
immediate family members (e.g. sisters)
example, if you’ve been together for several years (2-5
or more) and you’re in your mid-20’s to mid-30’s then
it’s very possible that the reason she broke up with you
is simply to “shock” you into commitment.
Another thing to consider: is she in her early thirties?
Because many single women naturally panic at this point
in their lives because their biological clocks are
ticking. They want to get married and have babies.
finally, if the majority of her girlfriends are either
married or engaged to be married but she’s still single…
it should be painfully obvious to you that she wants to
“jump on the bandwagon”.
let’s say your relationship circumstances fit the above
criteria (more or less) and you’ve concluded that her
break up reasons were nothing more than a test. How to
proceed with getting her back?
Simple… give her wants she wants but give it to her
tactfully. The first thing you should do is confront
her. Tell her that you realize why she broke up with you
and that you’re ready to settle down – but set a strict
date. Don’t leave things up in the air or you’ll soon
give her yet another reason to break up.
she accepts… great… mission accomplished. However, if
she refuses your proposal don’t go giving up hope just
yet. Understand that it will take some time to both get
her to trust in your seriousness to commit and to
overcome her shattered sense of pride (after all you’ve
rejected her in one way or another). But with a healthy
dose of patience and steady steps in the right direction
you will eventually be able to wear down her resistance
and turn her break up reasons into nothing more than
faint memory of the past.
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