How To Repair A
Relationship: Lessons Learned From The Discovery
by George Karanastasis, M.D.
and women are different in many respects but when it
comes to relationships those differences become much
more pronounced. And while one might argue that these
distinctions are directly to blame for “unhappy
endings”, they can in turn be used to repair a
relationship if rightly understood. The purpose of this
article is to point them out, explain why they exist,
and how you can effectively leverage them when
attempting to repair your own relationship.
First, let’s establish the main difference between men
and women and what they seek out in relationships. By
nature, when a girl gets together with a guy she’s
looking for security. And I’m not referring to financial
security (although in many instances this very well
could be the case). What I am referring to is the
confidence in knowing that she and her offspring will be
taken care of. And it doesn’t matter if the thought of
babies has never crossed her mind at this point in her
Because whether it’s a conscious thought or not… it’s an
instinctual determinant for selecting a partner,
nonetheless. This is the way that nature genetically
wired women to behave. They seek out dominant males that
can ensure the successful propagation of their genes.
Don’t believe me? Just spend an afternoon watching the
Discovery Channel to see how valid this statement is.
with this in mind it’s easy to understand what men seek
out in relationships: to provide security for their
partners. Again, and just like with women, this may
not be in the forefront of a guy’s thoughts when
selecting his “mate” but it is his own specific
motivator for getting with a girl, nonetheless.
how does all of this fit into relationship repair? It’s
simple: if women are seeking security in their
relationships then men must strive to provide it.
And if your relationship is in need of repair then you
must to take a moment to think about all the ways you
might have failed to do so and what steps are necessary
to correct this.
instance, if your girlfriend is about to leave you then
attempting to persuade her to stay will not work. Why?
Because it’s an act of desperation that screams of
insecurity. However, if every one of your actions is
geared towards gaining her confidence that you’re not
only willing to provide security but completely capable
of doing so, you’ll have much more success in repairing
are some examples of this:
Making it known to her (not verbally but through
actions) that you don’t need her in your life – you
simply want her
Showing her that you’re in complete control of your
financial future (and security) through responsible
Instilling trust in her that you’re highly committed
to her by having a well thought- out plan for the
outcome of the relationship
conclusion, while the sexes are different when it comes
to unions, these differences can be used to a man’s
advantage to both repair a relationship and make it into
stronger, everlasting bond. All that’s required is a
little insight into the driving forces that bring two
people together and the underlying factors that
ultimately make them “stick”.
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